Not New; No Normal

Alright, enough already with all this nonsense about ascertaining what is “the new normal,” or adjusting to “the new normal.” 

Normalcy is by and large a function of experience and expectations: under a given set of conditions, experience over time is more or less consistent, so when we see that the same set of conditions is in place, we expect the experience to be similar, or typical, or what comes to be characterized as “normal.”

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Pebble beach. —A. Botsford Photo

By now, anyone who has been paying attention for the last three months would have to concede that under the abnormal conditions and oscillating frequency curve of a global pandemic—with information and safety measures in a constant state of flux—there can be no consistent experience over time; no pattern of behavior that isn’t disrupted by new data; no protocol that isn’t touted as necessary by some and completely disregarded by others; in other words, no normal. 

So let’s stop trying to spot the new normal; it seems like a waste of energy. Instead, let’s accept that we are living in abnormal and so far completely unpredictable times. Let’s focus on pulling together and figuring out how, with a consistent response—across international borders, across state lines and ideological divides—we can beat back the virus that is the cause of so much abnormality, that has essentially destroyed the sense of normalcy that previously provided us with so much comfort, joy, and peace.                 

And so it goes in the days of the novel coronavirus today. 

Keep the News on School Seniors Coming, Please
At Quaquanantuck is beyond gratified at the response so far to the request for information about high school and college seniors. So many accomplished young people; congratulations to all of them and the families that supported them through thick and thin on their educational journey. Please note that because of posting the column early this week, it was not possible to compile and publish all the information that has come in.

For now, please keep sending news to about high school and college seniors whose graduations have been disrupted in these abnormal times and I’ll work to get it all in over the next two weeks of peak commencement season.

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—A. Botsford Photo

Mayor’s Corner: Check Village Website
Because of early posting this week, At Quaquanantuck will not be offering the now (because of the coronavirus) customary synthesis of Mayor Peter Sartorius’s weekly letter to Quogue residents. 

For those who are not yet on the Village’s email address list, the easiest way  to see the most current, and all the Mayor’s letters, is to go to and click on Announcements. Once again, to receive Hizzoner’s email blasts, send an email to and ask to be put on the email list.

Signs of the times—A. Botsford Photos

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Adrienne Campbell-Holt and her husband Brian Wiles at the eastern intersection of Quogue Street and Montauk Highway on Sunday, June 7. —Stefanie Beck Photo

Quogue Library Announces Curbside Service Hours
As of the beginning of this week, the Quogue Library has begun offering curbside service hours.

Patrons are now welcome to stop by the temporary library headquarters on Midland Street to pick up items placed on hold, browse the window selection, request items, address library card issues, or seek Zoom or other tech support help. 

In addition to making requests during curbside service hours, items may be placed on hold through the library’s online catalogue at, by emailing, or by calling/texting 631-252-4882 during library hours.

Curbside service hours are Monday through Saturday from 9 a.m. to noon. There will also be a two-hour afternoon window for curbside service Monday through Thursday from 5 to 7 p.m.

Patrons arriving for curbside service are requested to call or text library personnel at 631-252-4882, call the library’s main number 631-653-4224, or email to notify staff of their arrival.

No patrons will be permitted in the building for any reason. All patrons are asked to observe social distancing protocols: maintain 6-foot distance and wear a face mask to obtain service. 

Meanwhile, in virtual programming, notable Quogue Library offerings this week include the appetizing “Owl Pellet Dissection” program co-sponsored by the Quogue Wildlife Refuge for aspiring biologists in grade four and up today, Thursday, June 18, at 4 p.m.; and a special Father’s Day Story and Craft on Saturday, June 20, at 11 a.m. Registration for all programs, except as noted, can now be completed by pointing and clicking on the library website. (Detailed instructions below.)owl

All those registrants who have already dutifully picked up their owl pellets at the Quogue Wildlife Refuge should be all set for today’s at home lab work. Those seeking to register who do not have an owl pellet yet might be able to obtain one by contacting Cara, the QWR Program Coordinator, at or by phone at 631-653-4771 to see if it’s possible to arrange a pick up.  

This interactive virtual program is designed to introduce youngsters to live owls as they learn about their hunting abilities, habitats, and lifestyles. The naturalists in training will dissect their pellets and then piece together the bones to recreate the prey animal that was consumed. 

To register and for more information about the program and picking up owl pellets at the QWR, click here, or visit

On Saturday, June 20, at 11 a.m. children in kindergarten and up are invited to join Miss Pat in the virtual realm for a special Father’s Day Story before going on to receive instructions for making an actual special Father’s Day gift.

Supplies needed for the gift include: one washed out soup or vegetable can; duct tape for rim of can; popsicle sticks or colored construction paper; Elmer’s glue; scissors; paint or colored markers; stickers or items that relate to Dad’s interests, i.e. fishing, baseball, boating, cars, hunting, bike riding, etc.; and possibly some “letter stickers, too!”

Although it seems a little challenging to envision, it sounds like the fathers of participants are in for a real treat. 

For a complete list of library programs and resources on the June calendar, visit

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Bluefish dinner. —A. Botsford Photo

As noted above, the Quogue Library has implemented a new procedure for patrons wishing to register for any one of the roster of virtual programs.

Patrons can now go to the library’s home page at; click on the flier image of the program for which they wish to register; click on the link presented; fill in the requested information; scroll to the bottom of the form (remembering to check “I am not a Robot”) and hit Register. A confirmation email with Zoom login information will be sent to all registered patrons. 

To stay up to speed and for a complete listing of all online library programs and resources, visit the library website at or contact

Hampton Theatre Company Names Scholarship Winners
Speaking of seniors, the Hampton Theatre Company recently announced the winners of the 2020 Peter Marbury Scholarships. Awarded each year in honor of the company’s longtime set designer, the late Peter Marbury, the competitive scholarships go to high school seniors who have shown outstanding ability in the theatre arts and who wish to pursue further education in theatre after graduation. 

Funding for the annual scholarships comes in large part from proceeds at the concession stand operated by volunteers at the back of the house during HTC performances at the Quogue Community Hall. 

Chosen from a field of 12 applicants, this year’s scholarship winners are Molly Brennan from Westhampton Beach High School; Ian Hubbard from Hampton Bays High School; and Dylan Kruehl from Pierson High School in Sag Harbor.  

Molly Brennan’s theatre resume lists work on stage and backstage at the Westhampton Beach Performing Arts Center, Westhampton Beach High School, the Southampton Arts Center, and Guild Hall in East Hampton.

Molly Brennan
Molly Brennan

Just this week, she was nominated in the Best Female Supporting in a play category for her role as Countess Andrenyi in last fall’s “Murder on the Orient Express.”

 Molly, who hails from East Quogue, is going on to Marymount Manhattan to pursue a BFA in Acting. 

Ian Hubbard is known to Hampton Theatre Company audiences for his work in two productions: as Billy Ray Jr. in the January 2019 production of “On Golden Pond,” and as the conflicted prep school senior Charlie Mason in the January 2020 production of “Admissions.”

Ian Hubbard
Ian Hubbard

Ian won a Best Actor Award at the Hofstra Shakespeare Festival and, in addition to a number of roles at Hampton Bays High School, he has worked with South Fork Performing Arts and Stages. Ian will be going on to Sarah Lawrence College, where he plans to study theatre. 

Dylan Kruehl has dedicated himself to theatre, dance and singing at Pierson since his sixth grade year, working both backstage and on stage in principal and supporting roles. He will be going on to Tulane University in New Orleans, LA and plans to immerse himself in theatre, both at the campus and in New Orleans. 

At Quaquanantuck applauds these dedicated students and is looking forward to news of their further accomplishments down the road. 

Teeny Nominations for Westhampton Beach High School Actors
Molly Brennan was not the only member of the cast of “Murder on the Orient Express” to receive a Teeny nomination this week. 

Sponsored and coordinated in our area by the East End Arts Council, the Teeny Awards were conceived from the idea of the Antoinette Perry Awards, aka the Tony Awards for Broadway shows. The annual awards have been celebrating excellence in high school theater across the East End of Long Island since 2002. 

In addition to Molly Brennan’s nomination for Best Female Supporting, other Teeny nominees in the cast of “Murder on the Orient Express” went to: senior Sophie Cline, playing Mrs. Hubbard, for Best Female Lead in a play; junior Josh Kaplan, playing Hercule Poirot, for Best Male Lead in a play; and sophomore Olivia Galway, playing Mary, for Outstanding Performer in a play. 

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A scene from “Murder on the Orient Express” at Westhampton Beach High School last fall. —Stephanie Rempe Photo

The Agatha Christie mystery, with a script by Ken Ludwig, was directed by Rosemary Cline, known to Hampton Theatre Company audiences for a long list of memorable performances over many years.  

Quogue Historical Society: The Station Wars of Quogue
June 8 was the 150th anniversary of the inaugural railroad run from Manorville all the way out to Bridgehampton. Next week, At Quaquanantuck will take a closer look at information compiled by the Quogue Historical Society on the thorny subject of train stations in Quogue, who built them when, where they were located, and the Long Island Rail Road’s refusal to make stops if it didn’t approve of a station’s location. Heady stuff. Check back next week. 

Wildlife Refuge Adds a June 19 Paddle Day; Gifts for Dads
The Quogue Wildllife Refuge has added one more “Family Paddle Day” program to the calendar, with three private time slots available for households or families on Friday, June 19: 9 to 10:30 a.m.; 10:45 a.m. to 12:15 p.m.; and 12:30 to 2 p.m.

To maintain social distance for participants, the partially guided paddles in kayaks and/or canoes around Old Ice Pond are open to six people at a time in the three different private time slots.  

Activities during each 90-minute time slot will include: guiding by a naturalist for part of the exploration of Old Ice Pond; time for “free paddling”; and exploration with the help of a scavenger hunt/ID chart. Paddlers will have a chance to observe the various species of freshwater fish, turtles, and birds that live in and around this more than 100-year-old pond that was originally created for ice harvesting for the Quogue Ice Company. 

This program is weather dependent. Single kayaks, double kayaks, and canoes will be determined prior to paddlers’ arrival based on the individuals in the party. For more information and to register, click here or visit

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Grazing in the grass. —Elizabeth Caputo Photo

Also, with Father’s Day coming up this weekend, be sure to check out the Quogue Wildlife Refuge online shop,, which has several special items just right for Dads. Choose your curbside pickup date and time in your “shopping cart” before you pay, and make Dad a happy man on Sunday. For more information, click here, or visit  

All June QWR virtual programs and live social distance programs—including QWR Nature News on Tuesdays at 1 p.m. and Earth Yoga Outside with Amy Hess on Wednesdays at 9 a.m. (weather permitting; pre-registration required)—are now posted on the Refuge website. For details, click here, or visit, click on the Programs tab at the top, then click on Events Calendar on the drop down. 

Although the Nature Center and facilities remain closed at this time, the trails at the QWR remain open, to counterclockwise single direction access only, and with adequate social distancing and other protocols required.

And please remember, too, the new Quogue Wildlife Refuge “text to donate” app for smart phone users. Donations to the QWR can now be made from anywhere simply by texting QWR2020 to 202-858-1233. The new app leads users to a very simple donation form, right on their cell phones. If apps aren’t your thing, consider making a donation at the QWR website, Now more than ever the Refuge is an invaluable resource for area residents and visitors; offering your support during this crisis is the right thing to do.

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Prairie warbler. —Florrie Morrisey Photo

Quogue Gallery Open to the Public Once Again
“Jeff Muhs: Deliverance,”the first show of the seventh season of the Quogue Gallery at 44 Quogue Street,  remains on view through July 2, with 11 paintings by Jeff Muhs arrayed in the north gallery. 

As part of the New York Forward Phase II reopening, the gallery is now open to the public. During June, open hours will be on Saturday and Sunday from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. and by appointment. The number of people allowed in the gallery at any one time is currently limited to no more than 10 and masks and social distancing are required.

“Jeff Muhs: Deliverance” continues to be available for viewing via the “virtual gallery” located on the gallery website ( Artwork may also be brought to clients’ homes for viewing by request, and gallery owners Christy and Chester Murray can Photoshop a piece “into” a space to help clients better understand how a work of art fits into their home environment. For more information, contact the gallery, by phone (203-321-9427) or e-mail,

Inn Spot on the Bay Opens for Outdoor Dining
Another giant step as restaurants work to find their way back to something resembling full service: The Inn Spot on the Bay announced that as of Friday, June 11, the bayside restaurant by Ponquogue Bridge would be opening for dinner with all seating outdoors. 

The requirement for serving outdoors means that the number of tables is limited, so diners are requested to call for reservations. In turn, due to the limited amount of reservations that can be accepted, all reservations will need to be secured with a credit card.

Cheffes Colette and Pam have implemented some new protocols for safety. For example, there will not be physical menus; diners will view the menu on their mobile device after scanning a QR code posted on each table. All are asked to practice safe distancing from other patrons, and to please keep in mind that regulations require unseated diners to wear a mask.

Dinner will be served on Friday, Saturday and Sunday beginning at 5 p.m. The Inn Spot food truck will be open on Saturday and Sunday from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. For more information, reservations, or food truck ordering and pickup procedures, visit; call 631-728-1200.

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Bay family. —Hillary Wilson Photo

Remembering Caroline Moore
Caroline Moore, a dear friend to many in Quogue—and in all the communities she graced with her presence—died on June 10, 2020, after a determined four-year battle with meningioma. 

Members of Caroline’s family collaborated on a beautiful remembrance to share with those who knew her, and At Quaquanantuck obtained permission to publish an extended excerpt so that friends as well as those who were not fortunate enough to make her acquaintance might have a clearer picture of a truly remarkable woman. 

Referring to her fight against meningioma, the family wrote: “Her strength, patience, and remarkable good spirits throughout this struggle will surprise none of you. Nor will it surprise you that she would not choose to focus on the difficulties of these past few years. This is what she would choose to tell you if she were prone to bragging (which she was not): 

“Caroline was a New Yorker to her core. She grew up on Davidson Avenue in the Bronx where she developed excellent streetball skills and fell in love with the Brooklyn Dodgers. Although she was an only child, Caroline loved that their apartment was often full of cousins and aunts and uncles. 

“Caroline attended the Birch Wathen School in Manhattan and was proud to have been the only little girl from the Bronx in her class. Known for her intelligence and desire to help others, she went on to graduate from Bryn Mawr College with a degree in Biology and subsequently earned a Masters in Education from Temple University. 

“During her senior year of college, Caroline met Peter Moore, a dashing young man running a business in Philadelphia. Peter wisely proposed on their third date. After some thought, Caroline wisely said yes. They were married shortly after her graduation, and Caroline shelved her plans for medical school to raise a family instead. Peter taught Caroline to ski and sail. Caroline taught Peter to drink and swear. After her marriage, Caroline happily raised her own family in Philadelphia and then embraced life on a farm in New Jersey.

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Peter and Caroline Moore

“Caroline was not only a devoted wife and mother, but also a hard worker. Her curious and tenacious spirit led her to excel in a variety of male-dominated fields. She served as a physician’s assistant at Children’s Hospital in Philadelphia, an Admissions Officer at Bryn Mawr College, and an Admissions Director at Princeton. In 1985, she went to work with Peter, serving as President of Craft Industries until they sold the business in 1991. 

“Caroline’s true passion lay in teaching and expanding access to education. She started the Adult and Continuing Education program at Bryn Mawr which opened Bryn Mawr classes to students from a wide variety of backgrounds, ages, and experience. She continued this mission as an Admissions Director for Princeton in the early 1980s, pushing to expand diversity in the student body and making it a priority to meet with college counselors from inner city schools and promote awareness of Princeton among underprivileged and underserved communities. 

“Even after her retirement, Caroline began helping high school seniors with their college applications with a focus on helping students tell their individual stories in the personal essay. She recognized that this kind of help was not readily available to low income students in New York. With Carla Sinz, she developed and ran a college essay program available free of charge at public libraries in all five boroughs of New York. Even when her ability to walk made things difficult, Caroline continued to trek to the libraries to work with interested students. When not working, she loved all sports—golf, tennis, skiing, and, after her return to NYC, ice dancing at Chelsea Piers. 

“These many accomplishments notwithstanding, Caroline was most proud of her family. She and Peter were inseparable for 63 years. As documented by Peter in thousands of slides and movies, they had fun. She adored her two kids, Deenie and Jon. She adored her six grandchildren, Peter, Charlie, Tommy, John, Amelia, and Jack, to whom she occasionally delivered breakfast on roller blades. She welcomed Frank, Bradley, Lindsay, Simone, and Sriya into her family with an open heart. The sun rose and set over her first great-grandchild, Nicholas Brosens, who loves a good wheelchair ride. All of us loved her right back.

“The whole Moore/Brosens crew is profoundly grateful to Patricia Egbufor, Cassandra Ferguson, Assa Changoo, Heather Brooks, and Mariam Gramboute who provided such care and support to Caroline and Peter over the past few years. Patricia and Cassandra were there from the beginning of the journey and are trusted friends.

“Here is what Caroline loved: the sun on her face; the four-ball tournament at the Quogue Field Club; soft serve ice cream cones; Jackie Robinson; dancing; a water view; all of you, her treasured friends.”

At Quaquanantuck was lucky enough to meet Caroline and Peter through another wonderful woman, her late friend Marge Crane, and it was the nature of Caroline’s personality and her grace that made it seem instantly as if we had been friends for years.

I don’t know many, or perhaps any, people who could so deftly balance her no-nonsense impatience with inconsequential blather with such an encouraging, witty, and appreciative warmth when supporting meaningful issues, ideas, and people that she cared about. 

I know I share with many in the community the feeling of having been blessed to have known her. Condolences to all in her family, and thanks very much for sharing your lovely remembrance. 

Your Comments Welcome
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